Hey guys. I know, I didn’t post in here for some time, and some of you probably thought that I’d just abandon this blog. Surprise, I’m back with another random thing I’d like to hear your opinions about.
I actually came up with the idea for this post last night, probably at about 2 AM. I couldn’t sleep, and my brain just started remembering things from 2 years ago. Most of you probably know those situations. You just start thinking about random conversations, wondering if you might have said something completely messed up without realizing it. Unfortunately, I’m one of those people who can’t stop thinking about it unless they talk to someone, so I’m going to give you context now.
The conversation happened somewhere in 2024. I was hanging out with a very good friend from school. We were watching movies at my place, and we were both getting hungry, so we decided to order some food. Everything was going well until she picked some food combination I had never heard of. Don’t get me wrong—I don’t care what people eat. However, I’m an honest person, sometimes too honest. So when I saw what she wanted to order, I said something like: "You’re so weird." I meant it as a joke, but she immediately started crying. When I asked her what was wrong, she said that I hurt her because I basically insulted her. I didn’t really get it, but I apologized because that’s how I am. She calmed down, and we pretended as if nothing had happened.
We are still friends now, and she probably forgot about that day already. However, that conversation keeps popping up in my head. I still wonder if what I said really was an insult. In a different friend group, we call each other weird all the time, in a joking way of course. Same thing with my partner. If someone listened to our conversations, they’d probably think we actually hate each other. In my opinion, those things should always be jokes and nothing more. As long as people can tell that I’m joking, there’s nothing wrong with calling someone weird. Most of my friends agree with me. I know that I’m socially awkward. Maybe my whole friend group isn’t normal, I can’t tell.
What do you guys think? Did I really insult my friend, even if I was clearly joking? Is my humor actually kind of toxic? Or do you think I might have triggered something I didn’t know about? And how do you handle things like that in your friend groups? I’d really appreciate every single answer. For now, thanks for reading, and have a nice day.
Is it insulting to call somebody weird?
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4 responses to “Is it insulting to call somebody weird?”
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yeah no, there is no way you insulted them, as my x once said to me, there is no such thing is wierd, and no such thing as normal either
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That’s true. As far as I know, her way of eating is completely normal, she just likes to try new things I guess. I’m more careful when I talk to her now, of course I can change the way I talk to someone. I just thought I might be toxic in general
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A fellow overthinker here. As with 90% of things in this world, I’d say it depends. I think for me barely a day passes without me calling someone, or something weird. It’s just an ordinary word. But I guess it really depends on the context and intent it’s used with. But well, there are always sensitive people. I mean tbh at this point I wouldn’t really know what to respond to someone calling me weird because of food habits/preferences either, just have my history with that topic in particular, but tbh I would probably just move on because, fair enough. It/I might be weird. What do I care? I guess just be aware what kind of character the people you talk with have and how they might react to that kind of stuff, and adjust acordingly.
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Wow, this is big. I don’t think that it’s insulting to call someone weerd and I can understand that it would be a joke. Like if you told me I was weerd over a dm I would still take it as a joke, and not only as a joke, also as a complament. I think the same would go for friend group settings.
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